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The Power of Mothers Globally

May 8, 2011

In honor of Mother’s Day and in preparation for a speech I’m due to give to the International Women’s Festival in Accra, Ghana this week I’ve been researching the impact and role of Mothers on societies globally. The ancient Chinese proverb and title of Nick Kristof’s groundbreaking book, “Women Hold up Half the Sky” which inspired me to become more involved in women’s issues. I was also inspired by the many sharp, strong women, my “Mother Hens” that have come into my life and been a guiding force, nurturing, protecting and mentoring me since my own Mother passed away nearly 15 years ago. My Mother used to say “always listen to your Mother and your Mother Hens, they come into your life for a reason” and that being a Mother “is THE hardest job on the planet”. It’s only been in the last few years that I’ve truly come to understand and appreciate what she meant. And learn that she was right.

Learning Lessons from Mothers Globally

Per my Mother’s direction when I travel globally, I constantly seek out and actively listen to Mothers. I learn from each of them irrespective of religious differences, and deeply value their wisdom which is universal. There are myriad Women’s Initiatives happening all over the globe seeking to hold up, crystallize and build upon this wisdom and it is inspiring when you see grass-roots efforts like the International Women’s Fair in Ghana which was developed and funded locally and is engaging on issues to include Mother and Child healthcare and well-being as well as global business development for women. And oh by the way, the conference is being organized and spear-headed by a small group of forward thinking men. Men who get it. Men who are so forward thinking that they are providing a platform for leading women to share their experiences and they’ve targeted the Queen Mothers, those who are married to Chiefs and who carry extreme amounts of influence in their communities.

No matter where I travel, I am always interested in learning about the role of women and Mothers in a society. Hindu, Jewish, Christian, Muslim, Agnostic – irrespective of faith, Mothers around the world are more similar than that which separates them. They wield tremendous power oftentimes under the radar. They are at once strong, resilient, nurturing, and protective. They are more often than not excellent listeners, organizers, educators, and health practitioners with vast reservoirs of patience. No matter the religion, Mothers have a certain quality that not only binds and influences a society but that drives the development of future generations.

Women & Mothers in the Global Workforce

Many of the Mothers and women I meet around the world are incredibly entrepreneurial. Perhaps it comes from their experience dealing with the unknown and finding solutions on the fly. Perhaps it comes from societal expectations that they should do everything with nothing or under tremendous constraints. As many of my Mother Hens in Texas used to say and it’s become a mantra for me my entire life, “Women, and Mothers….know how to get sh*t done.” Give me a couple passionate, dedicated women and there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.

I am reminded of the sessions I attended at Maria Shriver’s Annual Women’s Forum in Long Beach last fall. Here were 15,000 women all under one roof – the positive energy was palpable. Every major female role model you can imagine was there speaking – from First Lady Michelle Obama to Justices Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Sandra Day O’Conner. One of the breakout sessions focused on women CEOs and it was one of the most candid exchanges I have ever witnessed. Five current and former CEOs sharing their challenges in raising families and companies in traditionally male dominated industries. I loved how they all agreed that at the end of the day their keys to success stemmed from many of the traits they gained as Mothers – knowing how to prioritize, empathize, build a team and make the tough decisions to get the job done. And they admitted that even though they had reached the top, they never stopped learning and listening.

As a senior executive once shared, “I wish Mothers ran all of my companies. They have a holistic view of the world and a unique skillset which isn’t often leveraged or appreciated by senior managers. Their ability to handle crises, manage conflict, and thrive in chaos is essential for global business. Many Mothers opt out at the senior executive levels so now the challenge is in finding ways to keep them. We need Mothers in our businesses now more than ever before.”

There are increasingly more and more women in business, particularly entrepreneurs. If only there were more women engaged in the art of diplomacy and at work in every level of our Federal Government. I remember well when I began at the State Department years ago how few women there were posted as Ambassadors, foreign service officers, or in key senior posts at Main State. It is heartening to now see such strong, powerful accomplished women in key leadership roles at the Department – from Secretary Clinton to Ambassador Verveer on Global Women’s Initiatives, Under Secretary McHale for Public Diplomacy, and Ambassador Elizabeth Bagley on Global Engagement. My hope is that irrespective of Administration we start having more women not only in these key positions but also throughout the diplomatic ranks.

I am sure that if the mothers of various nations could meet, there would be no more wars.-- E. M. Forster

State of the World’s Mothers & Preparing the Next Generation of Mothers

How are Mothers fairing globally? With all of the increased attention and funding for women’s issues, especially by governments and prominent NGOs, many global challenges persist. Save the Children’s twelfth annual Mothers’ Index 2011 outlines many of these challenges and compares the well-being of mothers and children in 164 countries. Countries are ranked on issues ranging from Mothers’ and children’s health, to educational and economic status. The report is incredibly well written and includes several awesome essays from unlikely authors ranging from Anne Mulcahy, former CEO of Xerox to Retired Army Colonel and Counter-Insurgency expert John Agoglia to actress Jennifer Garner, mother and Artist Ambassador for Save the Children. There is much progress, but much work yet to be done.

Findings from the SOW Mothers 2011 Report:

  • There are roughly 2 billion Mothers worldwide
  • Best places to be a Mother: Norway, Australia and Iceland
  • The Worst Place to be a Mother: Afghanistan
  • Of the 10 Bottom Ranked Countries 8 are from sub-Saharan Africa
  • The United States Ranks 31st

    There is thankfully increased attention and focus of resources not just on supporting and developing Mothers but also girls who are the future Mothers. To best prepare the next generation of Mothers and global leaders we must also recognize the impact of media and the perceptions that are propagated about the role of women in society. It was encouraging to see Jennifer Siebel Newsom’s powerful film MISS Representation which debuted at this year’s Sundance film festival calling attention to the media’s role in shaping and distorting the roles and expectations of women and the impact it has on drowning out women’s authentic voices and opportunities in society.

    Woman are 56% of the population, yet only 17% of Congress, 3% of Fortune 500 CEO’s, hold only 3% of clout positions in media and are 7% of directors and 13% of the film writers. – MISS Representation

    “It’s critical to me that all girls grow up in a world where their voice counts. Where the media reflects them in all of their diversity and
    where they’re afforded equal opportunities to succeed in life.” – Jennifer Siebel Newsom

    Mothers in Reflection
    The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. -- Alice Walker

    Whether they know it or not, Mothers and women yield a tremendous amount of power and influence in societies globally. Much of this power is hidden and underestimated. Imagine if public diplomacy practitioners and global business leaders regularly tapped into this power to help shape how they engage with the world. It is important to reflect on the impact Mothers have on our world and to find a way to appreciate, support and empower them. Even the smallest of efforts can make an extraordinary impact. Next week I am participating in a speed mentoring day for young women organized by Siebel Newsom in San Francisco – as my Mother always used to say, you have to make the time to make a difference. Our Mothers and Mother Hens that come into our life, are what makes us. They fundamentally shape much of who we are and who we become. Every day should be Mother’s Day.

  • Comments

    Dear Cari,
    Thank you for this most insightful and also moving account of your thoughts 'in Honor of Mothers.' I am astounded, if not shocked that The United States ranks #31!
    The great advantage this country has had through its 'Women's Rights' movement for decades is that the environment has helped to move 'women into better positions.'Yet...what has gone astray? Do men get it...or not? Are women failing each other? To me, Women's Rights are Human Rights, no matter which country you call yours or belong to. Is the self-value, not entitlement, at a loss? Reading various accounts on women and power... and then losing it again and again...is disturbing. Yes, it is a dailay struggle, not just once in a while. American women have had a great advantage, yet they don't seem to know their "worth"...which stands for w=wisdon...o=optimism...r=resilience...t=tenacity...h=honesty. Success agrees with YOU and is more than a slogan.

    Cari - so great you will be with us and the other 40 Speed Mentors at the PBWC Young Women's Summit. We are expecting over 300 girls - all ready to Connect. Explore and Inspire with their vision of the future. Thanks for all the support!

    Cari, The power of your words resonate around the globe. Many will reflect on the progress of women because you succinctly state our contribution to society - and the merit of recognizing the value of talent available from women.

    As a mentor, I admire and support this powerful message.

    Surely the best part of being a woman lies in her capacity to be a Mother and guiding force to any child who needs naturing, guidance, and love. Imparting wisdom, demonstrating impartiality, and teaching honesty/fairness do not require the 9 month process. The greatest compliment a woman (or man) can ever receive? "You are like a Mom/Dad
    to me." You will never hear these words unless you have earned it.

    Cari--what an illuminating blog. Loved it. I found particularly interesting your highlighting the role of the media in "shaping and distorting the roles and expectations of women" and immediately put MISS Representation in my Netflix queue. Extending that idea specifically to popular entertainment in the form of TV and film, its power to influence opinion and attitudes is extraordinary and why groups representing African Americans, Latinos, Muslims, and Arabs, have all reached out to Hollywood to ensure a more positive and accurate depiction of characters representative of these groups. This, to counter negative stereotypes that can pervade film and TV. And looking at the issue internationally, it's useful to remember the impact of American entertainment: over 60% of Hollywood receipts come from overseas. If there isn't some sort of working group or organization in existence whose mission is to regularly interact with Hollywood writers, producers and studios to promote a healthier depiction of women, then now's surely the time. Such an effort can also serve as inspiration for other international centers of filmmaking (i.e. Nollywood, Bollywood)...why not think big!?

    Cari, Words connot express how proud and in awe I am of you. I finally took the time to sit down and read this magnificent and informative article. You are an example to me, not to mention the women of all ages you meet and touch throughout the WORLD. Women have accomplished so much in the recent past but there are still MANY women who do not realize that indeed they DO have a voice (some not even in their own households) nor do they know how to get it...This world wide networking and EDUCATION is refreshing and contagious...I thank you...
    Cari, the things YOU have accomplished and the direction YOU have taken your life are inspiring and proof of the woman'
    s strenghth of character and determination. May God continue to direct and guide you on this WONDERFUL path. Your Mother is looking down upon
    you with buttons popping. Miss you sooo! Love, Patti

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